There are several reasons someone might unfriend you on Facebook. I'll admit that I have done this myself, although not very much. I'm a "hider" by nature. Instead of unfriending someone, I just "hide" them so they don't show up in my feed anymore. This is easier than unfriending someone because it can be done right there from your news feed page instead of going to your friend list, finding the person and unfriending them. And yet, I have found reason enough to go through the extra steps to unfriend a few people, even though doing so makes me feel a slight twinge of guilt and fear that they will know it was me who unfriended them. * queue a big, loud, fearful "GULP" here*
Regardless of my slight discomfort in unfriending people, here are the main reasons (I can remember at least) why I unfriended people in the past:
- I realized I didn't know the person. They must have friended me through the "someone you may know" process, thinking they knew me, but really didn't. I'm not looking for high numbers of friends or anything so I have no desire to keep people on my friend list that I don't know. You just never can be too careful.
- He/she was a person I barely knew for a short period of time and no longer see and probably never will see again.
- He/she posts inappropriate things on a regular basis that I find offensive and no longer want to read about. I will almost always unfriend for this reason instead of just "hide" simply because I don't want to be subject to or connected to offensive things online that could disparage my character and who is offensive to me on a daily basis.
Those are all the reasons I have actually unfriended people for and it's really been a miniscule amount of people that I have done this with. For the most part, I like to utilize the "hide" feature on FB, again, for the convenience more than anything.
Here are some other reasons people might unfriend you:
- They don't like you. (Yikes! Harsh, but sometimes true!)
- They think you're boring. (Another painful one!)
- You post too much junk on their wall (like games and other useless apps).
- You and said person had a "real-life" falling out and they no longer want your friendship to be "FB official".
- You've broken up with this person and are no longer "significant others" and it's too hard to be "just friends" on FB.
- Your relationship with the person is such that they don't want you knowing what they are doing. This is probably more typical in the teen/adult setting, more than amongst other adults, although I'm sure it still happens. On a side note here, my children will not have the option to have any online social media accounts without being friends with me - if I have an account on that particular platform - and giving me all their login information so that I can go in and see all their activity.
- Instead of finding you boring, they find you to be an idiot and are tired of the dumb stuff you post.
- You post too many pictures of yourself that you took of yourself, making the weird crooked smile/kiss face. (In my younger, single years, I'll admit that I had some of these and they are still probably posted on FB. You just have to look far enough back in my photo albums. *bows head in shame...*)
- You post too much political stuff, or have posted something political that offended that person. (I've been unfriended because of this one and I don't consider myself a political person. Ooops!)
- You post too many pictures of your kids. (Come on! Who doesn't like to see 200 pictures a day of my newborn baby??!)
- You simply post too many statuses in a day, therefore jamming up that person's news feed so they don't see anyone else's statuses. (I've been accused of being the person who posted the most statuses of anyone they knew on FB. I developed a complex and now keep a mental count of how many statuses I've posted each day...adjusting to staying home has created some new bad habits apparently!)
- They are now in a relationship and are no longer comfortable being friends with someone of the opposite sex. (I actually read a blog post about this.)
- They have decided they only want to use Facebook to connect with family and very close friends and you do not fit into either of those categories.
- You're not cool enough to be their friend anymore. (Ever find yourself wondering if "so-and-so" would accept a friend request from you? I have, and it kept me from requesting to be their friend because I was afraid of rejection and figured that they had probably seen me on someone else's profile and would have asked to be my friend if they really wanted to.)
- You were only friends on FB because you worked together and now you don't work together anymore and they don't have to pretend to care about you.
I'm sure I could drum up some more reasons but I'd like to hear some from you too. What are some reasons YOU have unfriended people on Facebook (if any) and what are some reasons you could think of to cause someone to do so? Are you more of a friend "hider" like myself? Or do you have no qualms about unfriending someone? If you're in a serious relationship or married recently, do you feel the need to unfriend exes or others members of the opposite sex? Do you expect this from your significant other?
I would like to end this post by saying, this is meant to be funny and light-hearted and not aimed at any one person I am friends with on Facebook. If you fall under the category of any of my reasons listed, please know that I most likely was not thinking about you, it just came to me. I also used a lot of things that directly apply to me (like posting a gazillion pictures of my kids, posting tons of updates throughout the day, and not being cool enough). I don't want any of my friends to read this and think I was making fun of them or trying to send out a message to them! Just read and have a good laugh and don't unfriend me...pretty please with cherries on top??